Guest blog by Sonya, a writer and blogger.
How often have you heard that you must stay positive while trying to conceive?
Probably too much, and you know it very well.
Negative thoughts and stress are something you don’t need during the wonderful period you are trying to conceive.
Yes, you read it right; we said wonderful. However difficult and stressful it may seem, it is a beautiful period because you are on the journey to the most life-changing thing.
The same decision that you want to get pregnant is the most important decision in life.
But know that the process starts even before you get pregnant.
Everything you do before will affect when you get pregnant and how your pregnancy will be.
But it’s hard to stay positive in the process sometimes.
Because you want to get pregnant so much, you can feel pressured, and you should be the complete opposite of that.
Sometimes the questions “When will it happen” or “Will it happen at all” bother you too much.
Days and months go by, and they seem like an eternity to you.
We get it, and it’s not easy when your ovulation cycles happen one after the other and nothing happens.
To help you on your journey to pregnancy, we have 8 tips to stay positive while TTC for you.
1. Understand Your Timing and Know The Facts
To prevent ourselves from stressing about something, we need to prepare well for it.
It is the same in this specific case.
We’re not saying you should become a fertility doctor, but learn all you can about ovulation and conception.
Of course, pay the most attention to your menstrual cycle.
It is always good to consult with experts for even more pieces of valuable information.
When you know your timing and fertility window without second-guessing, it significantly reduces stress.
Also, if you don’t already, install a period tracking app like Ovia Fertility or Flo.
Applications of this type will notify you when your fertility window is.
Some people find such apps burdensome because they make us lazy and not listen to our bodies because we rely too much on them.
You should trust your instinct and listen to your body, but you should not run away from technology either.
Instinct plus technology is a winning combination for reducing stress while TTC.
2. Believe in The Power of Positive Thoughts
As we have already said, it isn’t easy to be positive when waiting for something so important for so long.
Try saying positive affirmations to yourself every morning. It doesn’t have to be morning, it can be any part of the day, but it’s best to start the day with positive thoughts.
Here are some affirmations you can say to yourself:
“My body is ready for pregnancy.”
“I’m doing everything I can to welcome a new life inside me.”
“I’m controlling my body and mind by caring for myself.”
It’s also great to write down affirmations in your diary. You can write them as notes on your phone, so you can always check them when you need them.
Even write them on paper and hang them somewhere where you will always see them. The more you are exposed to positive affirmations, the more they will affect you.
If you want additional help, we suggest our programs.
We recommend:
Mental Wellness While TCC Program will help you take care of yourself for the next big step in your fertility journey.
Natural Cycle for Fertility Program will help you gain confidence in your ability to conceive.
In addition to soothing you while you wait for the most beautiful event in life, these programs will improve your mental health and well-being.
3. Don’t Put Your Life on Hold
Many women, when they decide that they want to get pregnant, neglect their whole life and devote themselves only to that.
Especially if this process lasts long, women tend to isolate themselves from everyone and prevent themselves from all the activities they enjoy.
Isolating yourself from everything is an entirely wrong approach.
Do not tell yourself that you will do something only when you get pregnant.
Unless these are some bad habits, you have absolutely no reason to limit yourself.
We talked about positive affirmations and how we should think about what we want. But we should not focus only on that and neglect all other parts of our being.
If we focus too much on something and neglect everything around us, we create a blockage that prevents achievement.
So don’t neglect everything else you love by focusing on just one thing.
While trying to conceive, don’t leave everything else aside, but live and enjoy everything as before that decision.
4. Communicate With Your Partner
You are not alone in this process, and your partner is involved too.
Maybe sometimes it seems to you that he is more relaxed while you are under stress because the test will never show that long-awaited two lines on the pregnancy test.
Men often behave differently than women while waiting for them to get pregnant.
Please don’t make a drama about it. If your partner is always there for you, loves you, and cares about you during the whole process, there is no need to overreact.
If negative thoughts come, talk to your partner. Talking to him will calm you down because you know you are not alone in this process.
You can learn more about communication with your partner at the Tiny Changes Matter blog.
5. Don’t Let Your Sex Life Suffer While TTC
We emphasized the importance of communication with a partner, and now we emphasize the importance of intimacy.
While trying to conceive, couples often turn their sex life into a chore.
Timed sex can lower your libido and cause you two to drift apart instead of getting closer.
If you and your partner only have sex to have a baby, it can easily fall into a routine that leads to losing passion. Keep that flame burning!
As for the exact method of having sex that leads to conception, we will not go into too much detail.
Let’s say that there are a lot of misconceptions about it.
We can say to you and your partner, just keep it simple, fun, and enjoy.
6. Lean on Your Family and Friends
While you are waiting to get pregnant, you may feel the need to distance yourself from people, and you may even be doing it unconsciously.
We understand it is a private process, and you are not told about it, especially when things don’t go as planned.
You don’t have to talk about it with your friends and family if you don’t want to, but you can enjoy their company.
And if you want to tell them what you’re going through, tell them.
Everyone who supported you throughout your life will help you now too.
Suppose you and your partner feel too isolated because only you two still don’t have children, and you are uncomfortable talking to others about it. In that case, you should consider joining a support group.
Sometimes it’s enough just to be surrounded by other couples going through the same thing as you and your partner.
In support groups, you share experiences. Above all, you understand each other because you are going through the same thing.
7. Focus on Self-care
Focusing on what you can influence distracts you from things you cannot control.
Self-care is always a good choice, not only in this delicate period.
There are different ways of self-care for each of us.
For some, it’s preparing healthy and tasty food; for others, it’s about physical activities.
Our advice is to do a little bit of everything that suits you.
You can enjoy preparing healthy food, walking in the forest, meditating in nature, and everything good for your physical and mental health.
Stay active, and don’t stop enjoying all the little things that make you happy because you have that big goal.
And at the end of the day, reward yourself with a long bubble bath. You earned it.
8. Acknowledge Bad Days as Part of the Process Too
There will be bad days during the TTS journey. Unfortunately, they are also part of the process.
Don’t let them sway you from your purpose.
You will get through and be even stronger after all of the above.
Suppose you notice that the TTC journey is stressful for you and affects your relationship with your partner. It would help if you were not afraid to take a break in your journey to conceive.
A break of a few months can do you good. When you return to the process, you return with new energy and will.
Even Miracles Take Little Time to Happen
The struggle is also part of the process. You should never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it.
It is important to remember that you are doing the best you can and to stay positive.
We are sending you wishes for calmness, clarity, and a little bit of baby dust.
Sonya is a writer and blogger that devotes her time to relationships between people, psychology and self-improvement. Her goal is to help as many people as possible with her articles!
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