Guest blog by Rebecca, a translator by day, and a traveler mostly at night.
If you’re reading this right now, chances are you’re trying to get pregnant or you want to try to get pregnant soon. If you’re here because of the first reason, tell me, have you been trying for a while? Are you and your partner getting to a breaking point? Do you feel that you’ve trying everything, you’ve followed the book and it still hasn’t happened for you?
Most women will be saying yes to all of these. Some people are blessed with an easy pregnancy, or a pregnancy that happens very fast in their lives, as soon as they try. But many more try for months, sometimes years without much luck.
Do you feel that the more you try, the less you get?
It can be really discouraging for women (and men) to keep trying, month after month, and still get a no when it comes to testing. At the beginning, you shake it off and you try again, because it’s more common to not get it at the first time, isn’t it? But when the months start to drag and your period comes, your hope starts to dwindle. That is absolutely normal. You have every right to feel this way and only you know how hard it is to feel this way. The pain is humungous, and your best friend is going through it too, so who can you rant to?
You’ve taken all the tests… everything is okay with your bodies.
Yet… you’re still not pregnant.
What if I tell you that some limiting beliefs might be the cause to your problems?
What are limiting beliefs, and do you have them?
Limiting beliefs are things you, consciously or most commonly unconsciously, tell yourself or believe in. They are negative things that weigh you down and most of the time, you don’t even know they’re on your shoulders.
They can be somewhere in the lines of “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not worthy”, “Why should I be happy if many others aren’t?” or “Why should I get pregnant if I’ve lost another baby?” As you can see, these are awful beliefs to have. I’m sure you’re aware of this and you wouldn’t want a loved one thinking these things about themselves. So, why do you believe them about yourself?
It’s not easy, but we can do this…
Maybe you weren’t even aware you were doing this. But later is better than never, so here you are now, ready to take action!
How can you overcome these limiting beliefs that are hindering your fertility?
I know this might sound like a broken record, but it is the most important thing you could do! Relaxing is incredibly powerful for the mind and body and everyone needs it once in a while. I bet you’re now extremely stressed with life as anyone could be but on top of that, you’re now trying to get pregnant. That is full-on! So, relax. Take a step back and breathe. There are plenty of studies that have proven that stress negatively impacts fertility (really, google them!). Even if stress is a psychological reaction to life, it always impacts our body. Haven’t you ever noticed how your eyes twitch or your skin breaks out or you get an annoying stomach pain for days on end? These are all signs of high stress! If it shows on your body in simple ways like these, can you imagine what it does to an egg trying to be fertilised?
Breathing exercises can help you if you do them a few times a day, every day. Take a few seconds and breathe. It is that simple and trust me, you’ll feel a whole lot better once you’ve finished a full day of work.
If the breathing exercises weren’t enough, I have a few more suggestions for you. Go for a walk outside, meditate in nature or go on a walking holiday! The most important part of this exercise is that you’ll be outside in the nature. Nature has such a strong connection with our bodies and wellbeing, and there’s nothing better than a fresh morning walk in the woods or a good long hike up the mountains. It’ll give you a newfound energy and peace. You’ll feel rejuvenated and ready to tackle the hardships in your life.
*Don’t Make Any Excuses
Many times we believe we’re not worthy and to justify that, we say things like “I deserve this happening to me because I did x or y in the past” or “I brought this upon myself because x or y…”, I’m saying stop. Do not validate these feelings because they will only help your limiting beliefs and give them more power over you. What we put out into the world is what we get. Start saying things like “I will become a mother and I will teach my child x…” or “When my child is born, we will go on this trip.” Put out into the world these beliefs of this will happen, and your limiting beliefs will slowly start fading away.
*A Healthy Mind is a Healthy Body
You need to feel well balanced and stable because your body won’t be these things if your mind is not. Many people believe that you get pregnant when you stop worrying about it, or when you least expect it. This is maybe not what you want to hear, but worrying will lead to a troubled mind, which equals to a troubled body. There is a pattern here and I’m sure by now you can see it too.
I’ve mentioned meditation before, but I’ll say it again. Meditate, do Yoga, go for a run, anything that forces your mind to disconnect for a few minutes/hours and gives you and your body a chance to unwind too.
Remember that nothing is wrong with you. You’re perfect and your time will come. These tips are here as a reminder that you’ve been doing all you possibly can and maybe now it’s time to take a step back and a deep breath and get in touch with yourself. Remind yourself of your journey and of how strong you are. Do not let past beliefs define your future. Let them go and soon, good things will come. I believe it, now you have to.
Rebecca is a translator by day, and a traveler mostly at night. She is an expert on living with jet lag – and packing in tiny suitcases. You can read more of her exploits at RoughDraft.