“All healing is first a healing of the heart.” – Carl Townsend
I hope all is well and your new year is off to a great start! Do you have anything you want to share with me? Any questions, concerns, or stories? Please do email me and let me know.
This time of year always makes me think of renewal and re-energizing. A fresh new year deserves a fresh new start, right? But a lot of the time we carry emotional wounds from previous experiences that we might not even be aware we are still holding onto, and that makes the process of renewing yourself pretty difficult.
So, in order to really get the year off to a good start I invite you to try to following exercise with me.
1. Find a quite moment to sit or lay down by yourself. Let your mind wander, and as it does don’t try to redirect it away from any negative thoughts or remembering bad experiences. Recognize those thoughts, and let them take place.
Take time to acknowledge any pain or sadness. Don’t rush to move away from the uncomfortable feelings. Give yourself space to feel.
2. Once you recognize any pain you may be holding on to, be kind to yourself. Don’t judge yourself for having this wound. You wouldn’t judge someone for having a scar on their body, right? Don’t judge yourself for having emotional scars.
Try to treat yourself as you would treat others, because we are often much kinder to others then we are to ourselves. If someone else were feeling how you feel, what would you say to them? This is also what you should say to yourself.
Feeling good, and being happy are not the only experiences worth having. All experiences have value. Once you find the value it is a lot easier to move on with a lighter heart and a more renewed soul.
Please let me know if doing the above exercise helped you at all, and if it did what are you planning to tackle now that you are renewed and re-energized?
m says
i’m sick of all of this, i’m sick of my ivf journey or hell, i’m sick sick sick sick sick
Tanya says
With every new year that starts, it just reminds me that another year has gone by that we didn’t get pregnant. This is not one of those wounds that heal over time, in my experience it only hurts more every day. Christmas and New Year is especially hard, as the whole season is about the celebration of the birth of a baby and of new beginnings.