I thought I would share this very important question that came in from Emma a few days ago.
I am willing to try anything and so bought your programs…
I am at day 8 of my cycle and the thing that is worrying me are the terribly negative thoughts that creep into my head while undertaking the visualization exercises.
I don’t want to sound crazy or creepy but when I try and imagine beautiful healthy ovaries for example images of black dead ovaries pops into my mind. I am scared that I am now making things worse. I stop the thought the second I have it and concentrate on the positive images but I am quite concerned.”
And I thought it might just be easy to share with you our verbatim response and how NOT to worry about these negative images that may pop up while you are using our programs.
Thank you so much for reaching out with this very important question! And my enormous condolences for what you have been through with three miscarriages..
Let me make a bet – that just by writing this email will already help these automatic thoughts that keep popping into your head. You have begun the process of acknowledging them – which is the first key step to letting them go…
And this is key – you are trying with all your might to downplay them, ignore them, sweep them under the carpet – but just like the movie the Poltergeist, they say “I’m baaaack!”
So the key is to allow them simply to be, but even more important – understand why you are having them. I would suggest that you respond either to me, or to write into a journal – whatever you prefer – stream of consciousness type writing and answer this question… “why is my body giving me this visualization?”
Also uber important here…don’t see these as “bad” or “negative.” This scenario could most definitely play out in your situation: through your stream of consciousness and automatic writing to answer this question, your intuition is strongly telling you something important about your body.
And in a flash of instinct and self-knowing, you come up with an answer. And then you ask your doctor, who confirms your suspicion and you can then tackle the issue head-on.
OR – this visualization leads you to a much deeper understanding about your body, its balance, and its self-healing power and you are able to change this dynamic through a more nurturing visualization and helps turn things around.
Let me share a quick story. My father died when I was 12 and one of the last images I have of him was when he was in the ICU all hooked up to a million machines. He was already brain dead, and my mother, who was freaking out, told me to talk to him as he could still hear me. As you can imagine, at 12 I was scared shitless and devastated by what I saw. This has haunted me for most of my life. But I have decided to change that memory. Simple as that. And in a state of meditation, I allowed myself to see that episode completely different – my father is laughing with a top hat on with Rayban sunglasses, and my mother is also laughing and dancing. Weird? Heck-ya, but it has literally changed my feeling about life from scary and sad to fun, nurturing and miraculous.
Remember, your thoughts may seem as if they are automatic, but you also influence them and can change them. Most important, learn from them, and try not to label them as bad. They are helping you! Life is meant to be abundant.
OK, so take action now by either responding to me, or if you are more comfortable, writing in your journal as to why you are having these visualizations.
So, why don’t YOU take action now as well and let us know in the comments section what weird or negative thoughts you may be having and how you can start to think of them differently!
With love + gratitude,